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I was up all night.

Not to complain about the heat in San Francisco, but I just don't have the right tools to deal with warm nights anymore. When you don't have any AC or even a fan, it's a pain. First, everybody is out wilding all night because they're able to go out in their short sleeves without carrying jackets and scarves, so it's loud and there are a 1,000 sirens. We left the window in our bedroom open – uneffective with no breeze – but the lack of screens meant that mosquitoes got in. Also, the cat that comes and yowls outside our window on warm nights (this is a strange thing that I don't understand) showed up too. So we moved out to our pull-out sofa, but the dogs were up and pacing, also too warm to sleep. Agh. Now I feel like crap. Going to go get some shade-grown locally roasted artisan iced coffee to make myself feel better.

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A hairless cat.A hairless cat.

A touch of realism

Damn. I just had the realization that I haven’t posted to this blog since January, and it’s June. Sigh.

This could be because I’ve become a much more active microblogger, these days. Facebook and Twitter are very distracting.

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Resolutions for 2009

Happy 2009! Today I’ve changed the title of the blog. We’re starting our third year in San Francisco. Wow, how time flies.

And, it’s 2009, the year I turn (gulp) 40. I honor of this momentous year, I’ve decided to actually articulate a few resolutions in order to help ensure that I stick to them.

1) Drop 12 Pounds. I’ve been hovering about ten pounds above where I want to be, and I gained a couple over the holidays, in spite of a bout of food poisoning just after Christmas. No matter, though; this year I will lose 12 pounds, and I hope to drop the bulk of it by the beginning of March. The plan is simple: As of tomorrow, back to Weight Watchers, back to counting points, even on the weekends, and regular exercise.

2) Upgrade my immune system. After catching every cold and sniffle that went through my office this year, I’m keen on taking steps to improve my immune system. I’m just really starting the research now, so I don’t have quite a good a plan as I do for the weight loss thing.

3) Don’t panic about the economy. Yes, it’s probably going to be a crap year, but simply being stressed out about it will do me no good. Smart, calm people make good money in bad economic times; I will do whatever I can to make lemonade out of lemons. I will plan to spend more carefully, try to save more, and, what’s more, I hope I can increase my charitable giving over the course of the year.

Here’s to the new year! Cheers, everyone!

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Sunset in Maui. Arrived this afternoon.Sunset in Maui. Arrived this afternoon.

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At the Ferry Building.At the Ferry Building.

On the topic of marriage

So, last week I mentioned that we paid for our marriage license. We have an appointment to pick it up next week, and intend to “solemnize” it sometime later this summer. But let me reframe this a little: We are not getting married for the first time, nor are we having another wedding. We’ve already had our wedding, and we’ve been married for a while now. We have pictures and paperwork to prove it. Here’s a picture right here:

and another:

However, we have decided to register our marriage with the state of California, and we’ll have a civil ceremony of some sort to make it official.

When it was announced last month that same-sex couples would be allowed to marry in California, neither K. and I were very excited. Of course, there was also the announcement that right-wing groups were already well on their way to getting a constitutional amendment on the ballot that would ban equal marriage rights for same-sex couples, and it just seemed like another chance to be disappointed and frustrated. We didn’t go out and party in the Castro the night it was announced, and we didn’t plan on getting ourselves a marriage license.

I know we’re not the only ones who weren’t particularly over the moon about this. There was a great story in Sunday’s San Francisco Chronicle profiling people who got married last time San Francisco had weddings, in 2004. Here’s a quote from that story, talking about a couple that has been together for 32 years:

“Here we go again,” was C.C. Manning’s first thought watching TV news reports about the state Supreme Court’s May 15 ruling granting gay and lesbian couples the right to wed.

Her response wasn’t cynical so much as weary. … “After a while, it becomes just so much bull-, pardon me,” she said. “You get tired of being rejected so many times. How long will these religious groups not want to share their happiness with other people? What have we done to destroy the religious feelings these people have? A lot of these homosexuals are Catholics, they go to movies, go out to dinner, go to lunch have friends…”

“… they volunteer in their communities,” Strugnell [her partner] interjected. “We do all the things that everyone else does. We want the same happiness everyone else does.”

Anyhow, you can read the story and get the picture. This sort of thing gets tiring.

Nonetheless, after hearing from our friend L., a lawyer who pointed out that the legal decision was very important, in that it forces any discrimination by the state on the basis of sexual orientation to be subject to “strict scrutiny” by the courts; and that it was unusual in its many references to diginity and respect, we did take heart. We also know now that marriages performed before the November elections will probably not be nullified even if an anti-equality amendment passes; and that these marriages will also be recognized in New York state; and that polls are now showing that more than 50 percent of California voters are actually in favor of marriage equality.

So, basically, we’ve decided to allow a bit of cautious optimism to seep in and participate in this historic movement by getting legally married in California.

The weddings start today in San Francisco at 5:01 p.m., the earliest time the law allows. The first people to be married legally will be the first people who were in line in 2004, Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon, activists who have been together for 55 years. And you don’t call that a marriage?

Fresh Chilled Vacation Pics

fresh chilled coconut milk

If you’re one of the many folks who can’t wait to dive in to the pictures of our Hawaiian vacation last week, you’ll be happy to know that we’ve sorted and titled them and they’re now available for your viewing pleasure. K. has also written up a recommendation list for some friends of ours who are planning to hit Kauai later this year, so I’ll post that here soon too.

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Texas art car spotting in the Tenderloin.